The Man List
We love the idea of writing down
all of the qualities you are looking
for - and releasing it to the
universe! Knowing what you want
is a powerful thing, as is making
sure your list gets narrowed down
to about ten key qualities (Yes, a
list of 153 is too long ladies!).
Relax
There's something to be said
about having a relaxed, carefree
attitude when it comes to dating.
You go out several times and then
don't hear from him? Instead of
worrying and stressing over why -
just assume it wasn't meant to be
and move on. Save yourself all of
that grief and get ready for your
next adventure.
Maintain Your Own Identity
You meet a great guy...and drop
your entire former life to be with
him. This is not good for you or
the newfound relationship.
Maintaining your sense of self,
friendships and passions keeps
you balanced and also makes you a
more desirable partner.
Trust Your Intuition
Intuition is like a gift from the
universe - so don't ignore the
feeling in your gut that tells you
something isn't right about the
seemingly cool guy you just met.
Keep those eyes open and listen to
your inner self.
Acceptance
How many women are guilty of
thinking they could change
something about their partners?
And how many then learned the
hard way that no one can change
another person? Odds are he isn't
going to change once you move in
together or when you get married
- or ever. If you just can't accept
some trait or habit in your
partner, it's time to think about
whether this is the right person
for you.
"I Complete Me"
There are way too many of us who
jump from one relationship to the
next, completely uncomfortable
with the idea of being alone. Not
good. What is great is to be
comfortable, confident and happy
on your own before you embark
on a relationship.
Don't Assume Anything
You've been dating six months and
just know you are exclusive. Many
of us have learned the hard way
that this isn't necessarily true! Ask
him what your status is and don't
be afraid to express what you are
looking for.
Ditch the Comfort Zone
Try something new. If your date
wants to go hiking or mountain
bike riding, instead of thinking,
"Oh no, he'll see me sweaty and
gross," try to adopt the "Why
not!" attitude. We all grow from
doing the things we are afraid to
do.
Do Not Settle
You are 35, starting to feel a little
stressed that Mr. Right has not
come along, so you settle for
second best. In the end, you'll be
much happier being single than
wasting time with the wrong
person. Hold out for the one who
is right for you.
Learn From the Past
Take some time to really learn
why your last relationship didn't
work out before you wade into the
next one. Is there a common
pattern or reason why you
struggled? Did you tend to choose
a certain type of guy - who wasn't
the best for you? Undertanding
ourselves, and what is good and
bad for us, is key to a better dating
future.
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