Let's face it. When it comes to
romance, some people seem to
have all the right moves, while
others are more romantically
challenged. If you happen to fall
into the latter category, don't
worry. There is hope.
The following are 10 simple
suggestions to help kick-start your
R.Q., a.k.a. your romance
quotient:
1. Communication is Key
The #1 rule when it comes to
romance is this: listen! By
listening to — and paying
attention to — your sweetie's
wants, needs, and desires, you'll
gain a better understanding of
what rocks your love's world. For
example, if your date's been
talking about a particular book
he'd like to read or a vacation that
she's been dying to take, those are
romantic cues for you to act on.
Pick up that book or, better yet,
book a romantic weekend away (if
and when it's appropriate). By
simply paying attention to what's
going on in your cutie's world,
you'll be that much closer to
rocking your romantic life.
2. Make your Date a Priority
Contrary to popular belief,
romance is NOT dead. In fact, the
best way to introduce it into your
next date is to take a look at your
current list of priorities and
possibly give it a subtle shift. For
example, if you're a busy working
professional, it's all too easy to
put your career at the top of your
priorities.
However, by making your
potential partner a priority, you
show him or her just how
thoughtful you really are.
Examples of gallant gestures
that'll clue your cutie in to the fact
that you're a romance rock star
include such simple acts as
regularly setting aside time during
the day to talk on the phone, not
bringing your BlackBerry on your
next date, and paying special
attention to your date's needs
when you do spend time together.
The simple act of being thoughtful
can and will go a long way in
rocking your romantic life.
3. Spontaneity Rules
Another way to infuse romance
into your dating life is to embrace
spontaneity. Go ahead, do the
unexpected! Grab and twirl your
love to the beat of a street corner
musician's song. Show up on your
date's doorstep unannounced with
flowers and wine. Scrap plans for a
night on the town in favor of
ordering takeout food when you're
both in need of some quality quiet
time together. By embracing the
art of spontaneity, you celebrate
your inner romantic, not to
mention rock your date's world.
4. Laughter + Romance = a
Great Date
Nothing brings two people closer
together quite like laughter. So if
you're looking to rock your
romantic life, introduce humor
into the equation. When in doubt
about your own ability to make
your partner laugh, take your date
to a funny play, movie, or other
comedic event. Afterward, you'll
have plenty to laugh and talk
about. Plus, by lightening up, you
just might stoke the romantic
fires of your budding relationship.
5. True Romance is Priceless
Anyone with a million-dollar bank
account can wine, dine, and woo
someone. But true romance
doesn't have to cost a thing. If
you're on a budget, there are
plenty of affordable and free ways
to win over the object of your
desire. From a simple serenade to
a heartfelt love note to a moonlit
stroll arm in arm, showing your
sweetie your sensitive side is a far
more meaningful romantic act
than showering your date with
money, expensive gifts, or a flashy
experience.
6. Compliment, Compliment,
Compliment!
When in doubt, a compliment goes
a long way. After all, who doesn't
like to hear something nice about
themselves? And it doesn't have
to be mushy or gushy. Your
compliment can be as simple as
telling your date how fantastic her
perfume smells, how terrific he
looks under the stars, or how
much you're enjoying her
company. The point is to make
your compliment genuine and
fitting in the moment.
7. Give your Date Plenty of
Space
As much as we all enjoy being
wooed, there IS such a thing as
romance overkill. The key to avoid
going overboard lies in giving your
date plenty of attention when
you're together, but also giving
him or her space when you're
apart. That doesn't mean that you
never call (especially if you said
you would). But you don't call 20
times a day. You don't suck up all
of your sweetie's free time. You
still have a life of your own. And
you give your partner plenty of
space to enjoy his or her own life.
As the old saying goes, "Absence
makes the heart grow fonder."
Create a little space between you
and your date, and the romance
will most likely heat up in no
time.
8. Master the art of Mood,
Location, and Ambience
The key to setting the perfect
romantic scene lies in the subtle
details. If you become a master at
creating a sultry mood in the
perfect location, surrounded by all
the right details, you
exponentially increase your
chances of romantic success. But
remember — romance should
never be generic. What woos one
person will fizzle with another. Be
sure to pay attention to your
date's likes and dislikes, and then
incorporate them into every detail
of your romantic scene.
9. Practice makes Perfect
Like the old saying goes, "If at
first you don't succeed, try, try
again." If and when you encounter
a romantic roadblock (or an all-
out dating disaster), don't give up.
Remember that romance takes
practice. Give yourself permission
to try new things, and accept if and
when they don't net the desired
romantic results. Communicate
with your date to find out what
went wrong and how to remedy
the situation next time. Then pick
yourself up, dust yourself off, and
give romance another try.
10. Keep romance Alive
Once you've wooed the object of
your desire and have won him or
her over, the romance doesn't stop
there. In fact, in a healthy
relationship, romance never dies.
You owe it to yourself, your
partner, and your happily-ever-
after future to keep the spark alive
for as long as your relationship's
alive.
When in doubt, review all 10 tips
for rocking your romantic life. Mix
it up! Avoid becoming predictable.
And above all, pay attention to
and listen to your partner's ever-
evolving wants, needs, and desires.
In doing so, you'll keep your cutie
happy while rocking your own
romantic needs.
romance, some people seem to
have all the right moves, while
others are more romantically
challenged. If you happen to fall
into the latter category, don't
worry. There is hope.
The following are 10 simple
suggestions to help kick-start your
R.Q., a.k.a. your romance
quotient:
1. Communication is Key
The #1 rule when it comes to
romance is this: listen! By
listening to — and paying
attention to — your sweetie's
wants, needs, and desires, you'll
gain a better understanding of
what rocks your love's world. For
example, if your date's been
talking about a particular book
he'd like to read or a vacation that
she's been dying to take, those are
romantic cues for you to act on.
Pick up that book or, better yet,
book a romantic weekend away (if
and when it's appropriate). By
simply paying attention to what's
going on in your cutie's world,
you'll be that much closer to
rocking your romantic life.
2. Make your Date a Priority
Contrary to popular belief,
romance is NOT dead. In fact, the
best way to introduce it into your
next date is to take a look at your
current list of priorities and
possibly give it a subtle shift. For
example, if you're a busy working
professional, it's all too easy to
put your career at the top of your
priorities.
However, by making your
potential partner a priority, you
show him or her just how
thoughtful you really are.
Examples of gallant gestures
that'll clue your cutie in to the fact
that you're a romance rock star
include such simple acts as
regularly setting aside time during
the day to talk on the phone, not
bringing your BlackBerry on your
next date, and paying special
attention to your date's needs
when you do spend time together.
The simple act of being thoughtful
can and will go a long way in
rocking your romantic life.
3. Spontaneity Rules
Another way to infuse romance
into your dating life is to embrace
spontaneity. Go ahead, do the
unexpected! Grab and twirl your
love to the beat of a street corner
musician's song. Show up on your
date's doorstep unannounced with
flowers and wine. Scrap plans for a
night on the town in favor of
ordering takeout food when you're
both in need of some quality quiet
time together. By embracing the
art of spontaneity, you celebrate
your inner romantic, not to
mention rock your date's world.
4. Laughter + Romance = a
Great Date
Nothing brings two people closer
together quite like laughter. So if
you're looking to rock your
romantic life, introduce humor
into the equation. When in doubt
about your own ability to make
your partner laugh, take your date
to a funny play, movie, or other
comedic event. Afterward, you'll
have plenty to laugh and talk
about. Plus, by lightening up, you
just might stoke the romantic
fires of your budding relationship.
5. True Romance is Priceless
Anyone with a million-dollar bank
account can wine, dine, and woo
someone. But true romance
doesn't have to cost a thing. If
you're on a budget, there are
plenty of affordable and free ways
to win over the object of your
desire. From a simple serenade to
a heartfelt love note to a moonlit
stroll arm in arm, showing your
sweetie your sensitive side is a far
more meaningful romantic act
than showering your date with
money, expensive gifts, or a flashy
experience.
6. Compliment, Compliment,
Compliment!
When in doubt, a compliment goes
a long way. After all, who doesn't
like to hear something nice about
themselves? And it doesn't have
to be mushy or gushy. Your
compliment can be as simple as
telling your date how fantastic her
perfume smells, how terrific he
looks under the stars, or how
much you're enjoying her
company. The point is to make
your compliment genuine and
fitting in the moment.
7. Give your Date Plenty of
Space
As much as we all enjoy being
wooed, there IS such a thing as
romance overkill. The key to avoid
going overboard lies in giving your
date plenty of attention when
you're together, but also giving
him or her space when you're
apart. That doesn't mean that you
never call (especially if you said
you would). But you don't call 20
times a day. You don't suck up all
of your sweetie's free time. You
still have a life of your own. And
you give your partner plenty of
space to enjoy his or her own life.
As the old saying goes, "Absence
makes the heart grow fonder."
Create a little space between you
and your date, and the romance
will most likely heat up in no
time.
8. Master the art of Mood,
Location, and Ambience
The key to setting the perfect
romantic scene lies in the subtle
details. If you become a master at
creating a sultry mood in the
perfect location, surrounded by all
the right details, you
exponentially increase your
chances of romantic success. But
remember — romance should
never be generic. What woos one
person will fizzle with another. Be
sure to pay attention to your
date's likes and dislikes, and then
incorporate them into every detail
of your romantic scene.
9. Practice makes Perfect
Like the old saying goes, "If at
first you don't succeed, try, try
again." If and when you encounter
a romantic roadblock (or an all-
out dating disaster), don't give up.
Remember that romance takes
practice. Give yourself permission
to try new things, and accept if and
when they don't net the desired
romantic results. Communicate
with your date to find out what
went wrong and how to remedy
the situation next time. Then pick
yourself up, dust yourself off, and
give romance another try.
10. Keep romance Alive
Once you've wooed the object of
your desire and have won him or
her over, the romance doesn't stop
there. In fact, in a healthy
relationship, romance never dies.
You owe it to yourself, your
partner, and your happily-ever-
after future to keep the spark alive
for as long as your relationship's
alive.
When in doubt, review all 10 tips
for rocking your romantic life. Mix
it up! Avoid becoming predictable.
And above all, pay attention to
and listen to your partner's ever-
evolving wants, needs, and desires.
In doing so, you'll keep your cutie
happy while rocking your own
romantic needs.
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