Hopefully, your relationship is one
of them.
How do you define secure,
functioning relationships? Is it one where
both partners remain faithful? Is it one
built on trust and honesty? Or, is it one
with mind-blowing intimacy?
A relationship with those qualities is
great, as all are vital for keeping the bond
with your partner strong. But what about
the true dynamic between couples? How
do you and your partner communicate?
Perhaps you and your partner have
constant marital disagreements about
small things, like the type of wine you
want the waiter to bring you for your
dinner conversation at a nice restaurant.
Or, maybe you pick at each other while
shopping together for patio furniture.
You hear what the other person has
to say about his or her preferences,
but are you really listening?
You want red wine, and your wife wants
red, but you insist that you hate the taste
of white. Or, your husband has his eye on
a patio set, but you prefer a different
wood pattern, which you make clear to
him when you incessantly repeat your
thoughts.
Both instances are aggressive, and it's
pretty evident that these couples are
having trouble understanding and truly
listening to each other.
It can be easy to dismiss the opinions and
feelings of your partner, especially if
you've been together for a long time.
Compromise goes right out the window
over time, and you rest in the comfort
you've created in your relationship. This
makes it impossible for your relationship
to move forward on the path of success.
In an article from Psych Central about
lack of communication in relationships,
author Lauren Suval's interview
with Anna Solo, a freelance
photojournalist, reveals that "There's a
difference between being shy and being a
bad communicator, and if someone can't
communicate well or can't push
themselves to from the beginning, what
other foundation can there be for a good
relationship? There's no way to cultivate
a healthy relationship if you
can't discuss things."
So, what exactly is the point of remaining
together if one or both partners cannot
listen or discuss without taking offense,
threatened, or feeling too comfortable in
the relationship to the point where words
flow in one ear and out the other?
Stan Tatkin, psychologist, explores three
fundamentals that all strong relationships
are based on, and explores how proper
relationships with good communication
remove relationship fears from the
equation completely.
of them.
How do you define secure,
functioning relationships? Is it one where
both partners remain faithful? Is it one
built on trust and honesty? Or, is it one
with mind-blowing intimacy?
A relationship with those qualities is
great, as all are vital for keeping the bond
with your partner strong. But what about
the true dynamic between couples? How
do you and your partner communicate?
Perhaps you and your partner have
constant marital disagreements about
small things, like the type of wine you
want the waiter to bring you for your
dinner conversation at a nice restaurant.
Or, maybe you pick at each other while
shopping together for patio furniture.
You hear what the other person has
to say about his or her preferences,
but are you really listening?
You want red wine, and your wife wants
red, but you insist that you hate the taste
of white. Or, your husband has his eye on
a patio set, but you prefer a different
wood pattern, which you make clear to
him when you incessantly repeat your
thoughts.
Both instances are aggressive, and it's
pretty evident that these couples are
having trouble understanding and truly
listening to each other.
It can be easy to dismiss the opinions and
feelings of your partner, especially if
you've been together for a long time.
Compromise goes right out the window
over time, and you rest in the comfort
you've created in your relationship. This
makes it impossible for your relationship
to move forward on the path of success.
In an article from Psych Central about
lack of communication in relationships,
author Lauren Suval's interview
with Anna Solo, a freelance
photojournalist, reveals that "There's a
difference between being shy and being a
bad communicator, and if someone can't
communicate well or can't push
themselves to from the beginning, what
other foundation can there be for a good
relationship? There's no way to cultivate
a healthy relationship if you
can't discuss things."
So, what exactly is the point of remaining
together if one or both partners cannot
listen or discuss without taking offense,
threatened, or feeling too comfortable in
the relationship to the point where words
flow in one ear and out the other?
Stan Tatkin, psychologist, explores three
fundamentals that all strong relationships
are based on, and explores how proper
relationships with good communication
remove relationship fears from the
equation completely.
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