How do you turn his attraction for you
into feelings of intimacy, passion, and
long-term connection?
You may have experienced it before, and
more than once: A man can be physically attracted to you, but it doesn't automatically mean he'll want something more with you. I get how incredibly frustrating this must be for women. And for a man to make that switch from liking you to feeling something deeper for you, there does have to be more. Let me tell you what it is – and how you can help get him there.
COMMUNICATE CENTEREDNESS RATHER THAN PUSHING OR PULLING.
This may not surprise you: a woman's
"commitment pace" is usually much
faster than a man's. You might know
right away that the two of you are meant
to be, but he still might need some time.
During your early interactions with a man, you don't want to fall into the role
of the "convincer." Being the convincer
means you are trying to get him to see
all the reasons why you should be together – either by being the one to
initiate contact and plans, or by actually
convincing him of why you make a great
couple. And being the convincer does not get you what you want. On the contrary: When one person is the "convincer" in a situation, the other person automatically becomes the "resistor." It's human nature. When you're still getting to know a guy, it's important to keep yourself centered by continuing to enjoy your life outside of him and by not communicating that your life depends on the outcome of this particular relationship. Here's how…
EXPRESS YOUR NEEDS –
WITHOUT MAKING IT ABOUT
HIM.
You can sidestep the possibility of being
stuck in a holding pattern with a guy by
letting him know, early on, what you're
looking for when it comes to dating and
relationships – and, here's the key – WITHOUT making it about him.
Let him know that you're willing to leave
if he doesn't engage with you at the level
you want. This is why you should clarify
this stuff for yourself BEFORE you meet
a man you like – to avoid letting chemistry cloud your judgment and lead
you into a situation that's not right for you.
Get clear now on what you're looking for,
so that when you do come face to face
with someone you think you want to be
in a relationship with, you can express
it. For example, talking about exclusivity
in this way can look like this: "You have
every right to date as many women as
you want, but I'm looking for an exclusive relationship." This lets a man know that you are clear about where you are in your life, and that's the key to getting certainty and empowerment in a relationship.
SHOW HIM IT'S ABOUT THE EXPERIENCE, NOT THE END GOAL.
Want to know one of the biggest fears
men have when it comes to dating and
relationships? That you only want us to
fill a job description: Husband, father,
provider. We, just like you, want to be loved and wanted for who we are and not
just for what we can do for you.
So one of the most powerful things you
can do to "flip" a man's switch for love is
to let him know that being with him is
your choice. You do this by telling him
and showing him how much you enjoy
him and his company. Of course, you
only want to do this if it's true! And, to
know that, it's worth slowing down YOUR commitment pace to match his…
and discover whether YOU should flip
your own switch for love with this particular man.
www.trueheart2love.diydating.com
into feelings of intimacy, passion, and
long-term connection?
You may have experienced it before, and
more than once: A man can be physically attracted to you, but it doesn't automatically mean he'll want something more with you. I get how incredibly frustrating this must be for women. And for a man to make that switch from liking you to feeling something deeper for you, there does have to be more. Let me tell you what it is – and how you can help get him there.
COMMUNICATE CENTEREDNESS RATHER THAN PUSHING OR PULLING.
This may not surprise you: a woman's
"commitment pace" is usually much
faster than a man's. You might know
right away that the two of you are meant
to be, but he still might need some time.
During your early interactions with a man, you don't want to fall into the role
of the "convincer." Being the convincer
means you are trying to get him to see
all the reasons why you should be together – either by being the one to
initiate contact and plans, or by actually
convincing him of why you make a great
couple. And being the convincer does not get you what you want. On the contrary: When one person is the "convincer" in a situation, the other person automatically becomes the "resistor." It's human nature. When you're still getting to know a guy, it's important to keep yourself centered by continuing to enjoy your life outside of him and by not communicating that your life depends on the outcome of this particular relationship. Here's how…
EXPRESS YOUR NEEDS –
WITHOUT MAKING IT ABOUT
HIM.
You can sidestep the possibility of being
stuck in a holding pattern with a guy by
letting him know, early on, what you're
looking for when it comes to dating and
relationships – and, here's the key – WITHOUT making it about him.
Let him know that you're willing to leave
if he doesn't engage with you at the level
you want. This is why you should clarify
this stuff for yourself BEFORE you meet
a man you like – to avoid letting chemistry cloud your judgment and lead
you into a situation that's not right for you.
Get clear now on what you're looking for,
so that when you do come face to face
with someone you think you want to be
in a relationship with, you can express
it. For example, talking about exclusivity
in this way can look like this: "You have
every right to date as many women as
you want, but I'm looking for an exclusive relationship." This lets a man know that you are clear about where you are in your life, and that's the key to getting certainty and empowerment in a relationship.
SHOW HIM IT'S ABOUT THE EXPERIENCE, NOT THE END GOAL.
Want to know one of the biggest fears
men have when it comes to dating and
relationships? That you only want us to
fill a job description: Husband, father,
provider. We, just like you, want to be loved and wanted for who we are and not
just for what we can do for you.
So one of the most powerful things you
can do to "flip" a man's switch for love is
to let him know that being with him is
your choice. You do this by telling him
and showing him how much you enjoy
him and his company. Of course, you
only want to do this if it's true! And, to
know that, it's worth slowing down YOUR commitment pace to match his…
and discover whether YOU should flip
your own switch for love with this particular man.
www.trueheart2love.diydating.com
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