dated with an open mind and heart?
Think back to all the dates you went on
last year. Was your mind open to each
potential candidate's good qualities, or
did you run for the hills at the first sign
of trouble (scuffed shoes, a nervous
smile, spinach in their teeth, etc.)?
If you're like most singles, you have a
specific dating check list with very little
wiggle room. But here's the thing — if
you haven't been in a relationship longer
than a month in the last few years, maybe it's not them. Maybe it's, gulp, you!
Don't despair if that statement rings true. If you're serious about seeking your soul mate (or at least enjoying better dating results) in 2009, the following five dating tips will help you open your mind so that you may just open your heart in the coming year.
Dating Tip #1: Speak your Truth
If you want to increase your possibility
of finding a rock solid partner, you must
first become rock solid yourself. This means opening your heart and speaking
your truth when dating. Instead of being
on your best behavior and hiding the real you, share your likes, dislikes, and needs with potential partners.
By being true to yourself, you give the
person sitting across from you the
opportunity to date the real you and
decide if that's someone they'd like to
keep seeing. If you say what you mean
and mean what you say in 2009, you will
enjoy amazing dating results and be well
on your way towards your happily ever
after future.
Dating Tip #2: Act, Don't React
Rather than reacting to every little nuance of dating that rubs you the
wrong way (his tendency to talk too much about his job, asking you to split the check on the first date, calling a little too frequently, etc.) take action to create a healthy and tolerant mindset. Reactive
behavior can leave you feeling victimized
so why not let go of that dating dead-end
and expand your horizons with an open
mind and heart?
Start by reflecting on why you react –
patterns from past relationships, issues
from childhood, fear of (fill in the blank).
If you're dragging your past into the present, you're closing yourself off to
awesome new opportunities. And in 2009, you owe it to yourself to become a
truly savvy single. When you your mind
and act from your heart, you get that much closer to relationship success
Dating Tip #3: Respect Yourself & Others
If you want a fabulous dating and relationship future, respect is a must!
And it all starts with you. Are you loving
and kind to yourself and others? Do you
set appropriate boundaries, honor your
word, and live with integrity? The key to
showing people how to treat you starts
with how you treat yourself.
By behaving with integrity and self love,
your dates will respond in kind. And
when they don't, you will quickly and
easily recognize their bad behavior and
kick them to the curb. By creating a
space of openness, you pave the way to
attract potential partners who also have
open minds and hearts.
Dating Tip #4: Be Flexible
Just because someone you meet doesn't
appear to be your type, it's important to
keep an open mind and heart. Why?
Because Mr./Ms. Right may walk into
your world in any number of shapes or
sizes. In order for you to recognize their
potential, you've got to keep your mind
open.
When you meet someone new and you
feel a connection, don't judge the other
person based on a preconceived notion
of who might be right for you. Honor
that genuine connection, let yourself get
to know the other person, and see what
happens. By living with an open mind,
your heart may just find a partner who's
surprisingly perfect for you.
Dating Tip #5: Temper Expectations
Rome wasn't built in a day, so meeting
the right person for you may take longer
than you expect. That's why it's essential
to your happily ever after future to approach dating not only with an open
mind and heart, but also with realistic
expectations. By letting go of any preconceived notions about when and
how you'll meet The One, you open yourself up to the possibility of meeting
many amazing "Ones."
Along the way you learn, grow, and get
clearer about the one that might be right
for you. With more realistic expectations, you'll be better equipped to attract the right relationship for you.
Living and dating with an open mind
and heart in 2009 will greatly increase
your chances of success.
When in doubt, review the dating tips
above. By putting them into practice in
your everyday life, you greatly increase
your chances of relationship success.
Along the way, you open yourself up to
new and amazing opportunities. Good
luck and happy dating!
www.trueheart2love.diydating.com
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