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11 Horrifying Myths About Domestic Violence

Know the facts. "If anything is truly equal opportunity, it is battering. Domestic violence crosses all socioeconomic, ethnic, racial, educational, age and religious lines." — K. J. Wilson, author of When Violence Begins At Home. Sadly, a US Department of Justice study indicates that approximately one million violent crimes are committed by former spouses, boyfriends, or girlfriends each year, with 85 percent of the victims being women. For domestic violence to be defeated, it must begin with information. Here are eleven myths and facts about domestic violence. Myth #1: Domestic violence is only physical. Fact: Abusive actions against another person can be verbal, emotional, sexual, and physical. There are four basic types of domestic violence: Physical: shoving, slapping, punching, pushing, hitting, kicking and restraining Sexual: when one partner forces unwanted, unwelcome, uninvited sexual acts upon another Psychological: verbal and emotional abuse, threats, intimidation, ...

20 Signs You Definitely Need To Dump His Sorry Ass, STAT

It's a blessing in disguise. We've all been there. You're conversing over cocktails after ending your relationship with Mr. So Very Wrong, and boom — your bestie puts down her mojito and hits you with the painful line no one ever wants to hear. "There were signs when you were dating," she says. Annoying? Yes. True? Well, yes. So, in honor of both your love life and your friendships, I'm laying out twenty early signs that it's time to say goodbye. Consider it the ultimate tear sheet for Tinder. 1. He acts like a pen pal. Whether fueled by a busy schedule, a need to collect admirer or general laziness, if you have texted 150 times and met up 0, it's time to set a date (and keep it) or delete his number. 2. He's Mr. Critical. This is the guy who really likes you, but would like you so much better if you made this tweak, and that tweak, oh, and that one, too. Bye! 3. He's a self-confessed playboy. When a man tells you he is only in it for "fun...

No, Dads AREN'T Complete Idiots (So Give 'Em A Break!)

Raising kids isn't a mom's work — it's family work. I've never been one to talk much about the dads on my blog because honestly, they aren't my focus on this lovely little space of mine on the Internet world but lately, I've found myself increasingly more and more aggravated with people and commercials that make men, specifically fathers, out to be complete imbeciles who can barely take care of themselves let alone their children (Lysol is the *worst* offender of this for which they will probably lose my business). You know, enough already. I know that for companies like Lysol, their target is the moms because supposedly, moms rule the roost. I get it. However, what I'll never understand for the life of me is why they feel the need to make the dads out to be fumbling, goofy, idiots. You know the commercials I'm talking about. Mom comes home from a leisurely afternoon of shopping only to find the house destroyed, dinner bubbling over on the stove and expl...

13 Things Guys Get So Wrong In Bed

"Seriously, there are way too many one-minute men out there." When it comes to speaking up about the things that are bothering you in the bedroom, most women would rather endure a less than stellar shag session than to kill the spirit of the guy who's trying his best to get it right. So to help all the men out there who aren't aware of their bedroom faux pas (and to help the ladies being subjected to them) we asked 13 honest women to share their take on the things that guys are getting wrong in the sack. Their answers ranged from lack of foreplay (no, blow jobs do not count) to not caring if she got off or not (seriously). There is a silver lining, however. These women are willing to work around your needs, as long as you cater to theirs first. As Sally, 28 put it: "If you're the kind of guy who passes out seconds after he finishes, make it your mission to get me off first."

Love isn't always easy, but it shouldn't be a burden.

Every person comes into relationships with some sort of expectations. Expectations around how they want to be loved. Expectations around how frequently they will communicate with each other. Expectations around what their sex lives will look like. Truly, the potential number of expectations is endless. There are reasonable expectations, and unreasonable expectations when it comes to relationships (and what is reasonable for one couple might be different for another). Examples of reasonable expectations would be: I expect my partner to remain faithful to me, since we agreed to a monogamous partnership. I expect my partner to not physically strike me in any context, unless it has been mutually agreed upon in a sexual play scenario. I expect my partner to voice any concerns they have when it comes to the emotional health and overall connection in our relationship. As for unreasonable expectations … I have heard hundreds, if not thousands, of unreasonable relationship expectations over the...

Dear Husbands: 5 Unsexy Things You Do That Seriously KILL The Mood

If you want her to desire you ... NEVER do these things: I have long considered physical intimacy between men and women as a very unfunny cosmic joke. Men get physical as a way to open up and emotionally connect to their partner. Women need to feel emotionally connected to their partners before opening up physically. I mean, who designed this system? Bridging this gap in approaches is often very difficult and exhausting for even the most committed couples. Left on their own, couples can end up in destructive patterns and eventually succumb to the often devastating outcome that is a sexless marriage — each partner feeling turned off by the other. But this sexless outcome is not inevitable. When approached well, sex in marriage is usually more frequent and better than that of single lovers. Which means many married couples keep their sex lives hot! How do those husbands do it? The secret to turning your wife on, gentlemen, is also knowing (and avoiding) what seriously turns her OFF. So, ...

If Your Guy Does These 15 Things, He'll Always Be Faithful

Don't waste your time wondering. At the top of nearly every survey about what singles want in a partner is a person who is faithful, loyal, and trustworthy. In other words, singles in a committed relationship want someone who will not cheat on them. Unfortunately, the reality of that desire often comes to a painful end as time goes on. Accurate statistics are hard to come by (because lots of people don't want to admit to cheating), but researchers agree that 30 to 50 percent of men and 20 to 40 percent of women are unfaithful. Can you ever know for sure that your partner won't cheat? No, because people and circumstances change over time. But you can look for specific personal qualities that offer a strong predisposition for faithfulness instead of unfaithfulness: 1. Your partner keeps his/her word in other areas. Reliability and trustworthiness across many aspects of life is a good indicator of faithfulness in your relationship. 2. The person likes your friends but keeps a ...