In a recent study conducted at Cornell
University and the University of
Wisconsin-Madison it was discovered
(no surprise here) that 80 percent of
people using online dating sites lied
about their height, weight, or age. Here
are a few more things men tend to lie
about when online.
His Job
Oh? You're about to go out with a good-
looking CEO of a booming start-up?
Don't be surprised if that means he has a
great idea for an app and is working out
of his parents' garage. Most men have a
tendency to inflate their titles or
responsibilities in order to impress
women. It's not a great idea to ask about
his salary, but a safe bet is to ask about
his title and how large a company he
works for. CEO is very impressive, but
not if the company is him and his dog.
His Intention
Just because a man is on a dating site
does not mean he's looking for a long-
term relationship. In fact, if you're on
Tinder, you should assume that the guy
is trying to get laid and be pleasantly
surprised when it turns out he wants to
date you. Aside from certain apps like
Heavenly Sinful, where you're explicitly
asked to say whether you want to hook
up or date, the guy's intention is often
unknown.
His Height
On average, guys will say they are two
inches taller than they actually are, and
will assume you're not going to bring a
tape measure to the first date. If you're
curious, you can wait until his wallet's
open while paying for (at least his share)
of the bill and say, "Oh! Let me see the
photo on your driver's license. Mine is
horrible." There, as clear as day, is his
height (no one cares enough to lie to the
DMV).
His Weight
Men (well, everyone) will post photos of
themselves from when they are looking
their physical best. So if you show up on
date number one and the guy is looking
twenty pounds overweight, don't be
shocked. If you're lucky it may go the
other way; he may have just recovered
from breaking up with his long-term
girlfriend and lost the gut men tend to
accrue when they no longer feel they
need to impress their partner. Now that
he's single he wants to look great. But
the pessimist in me leans toward
warning you that he may be a bit heavier
than you imagined.
His Worldliness
He may say he loves to travel but that
doesn't guarantee he's ever left the
United States. He may say he knows a
lot about wine but that might just mean
he knows that he likes Pinot Noir. Don't
assume anything based on the guy's
stated hobbies or interests; just like his
job description it is likely inflated and
made to sound more sophisticated than
it actually is.
His Relationship Status
I hate to say it, but even if a guy makes
himself available on a dating site it
doesn't necessarily mean he's there to
seriously date. Single can mean anything
from "haven't had a girlfriend in five
years and looking for sex" to "newly
divorced and sad." There are men who
are going through a break-up (but it's
not quite over with their gf) or are in an
open relationship and they are on these
sites because it seems innocent enough,
but they are not emotionally available
to be with you.
His Age
One of the most common lies on dating
profiles is a man fibbing about his age.
More often than not he's likely older
than he is. If you're in your early
twenties and a man says he's 29 there's a
chance he might actually be a 35 year-
old who knows you would never date
someone more than ten years your
senior. If that's your thing though, then
search for men in that age range... but
hope they're not in their 40s.
www.josiahdele.blogspot.com
University and the University of
Wisconsin-Madison it was discovered
(no surprise here) that 80 percent of
people using online dating sites lied
about their height, weight, or age. Here
are a few more things men tend to lie
about when online.
His Job
Oh? You're about to go out with a good-
looking CEO of a booming start-up?
Don't be surprised if that means he has a
great idea for an app and is working out
of his parents' garage. Most men have a
tendency to inflate their titles or
responsibilities in order to impress
women. It's not a great idea to ask about
his salary, but a safe bet is to ask about
his title and how large a company he
works for. CEO is very impressive, but
not if the company is him and his dog.
His Intention
Just because a man is on a dating site
does not mean he's looking for a long-
term relationship. In fact, if you're on
Tinder, you should assume that the guy
is trying to get laid and be pleasantly
surprised when it turns out he wants to
date you. Aside from certain apps like
Heavenly Sinful, where you're explicitly
asked to say whether you want to hook
up or date, the guy's intention is often
unknown.
His Height
On average, guys will say they are two
inches taller than they actually are, and
will assume you're not going to bring a
tape measure to the first date. If you're
curious, you can wait until his wallet's
open while paying for (at least his share)
of the bill and say, "Oh! Let me see the
photo on your driver's license. Mine is
horrible." There, as clear as day, is his
height (no one cares enough to lie to the
DMV).
His Weight
Men (well, everyone) will post photos of
themselves from when they are looking
their physical best. So if you show up on
date number one and the guy is looking
twenty pounds overweight, don't be
shocked. If you're lucky it may go the
other way; he may have just recovered
from breaking up with his long-term
girlfriend and lost the gut men tend to
accrue when they no longer feel they
need to impress their partner. Now that
he's single he wants to look great. But
the pessimist in me leans toward
warning you that he may be a bit heavier
than you imagined.
His Worldliness
He may say he loves to travel but that
doesn't guarantee he's ever left the
United States. He may say he knows a
lot about wine but that might just mean
he knows that he likes Pinot Noir. Don't
assume anything based on the guy's
stated hobbies or interests; just like his
job description it is likely inflated and
made to sound more sophisticated than
it actually is.
His Relationship Status
I hate to say it, but even if a guy makes
himself available on a dating site it
doesn't necessarily mean he's there to
seriously date. Single can mean anything
from "haven't had a girlfriend in five
years and looking for sex" to "newly
divorced and sad." There are men who
are going through a break-up (but it's
not quite over with their gf) or are in an
open relationship and they are on these
sites because it seems innocent enough,
but they are not emotionally available
to be with you.
His Age
One of the most common lies on dating
profiles is a man fibbing about his age.
More often than not he's likely older
than he is. If you're in your early
twenties and a man says he's 29 there's a
chance he might actually be a 35 year-
old who knows you would never date
someone more than ten years your
senior. If that's your thing though, then
search for men in that age range... but
hope they're not in their 40s.
www.josiahdele.blogspot.com
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